Personality is that unique, incalculable thing we mean when we speak of ourselves as distinct from everyone else. Our personality is always too big for us to grasp. An island in the sea may be easily explored, but think how amazed we are when we realize that it’s only the top of a great mountain, most of which lies hidden beneath the waves. The tip of the island represents our conscious personality; we know nothing about the larger part underneath; consequently, there are upheavals from below that we can’t account for. We can’t comprehend ourselves at all. We begin by thinking we can, but eventually we realize that the only one who understands us is our creator.

Personality is the characteristic of the spiritual man or woman; individuality is the characteristic of the natural man or woman. Our Lord can never be defined in terms of individuality and independence but only in terms of personality: “I and the Father are one” (John 10:30). Personality merges, and you only reach your real identity when you are merged with another person. When love, or the Spirit of God, strikes you, you are transformed. You no longer insist on your separate individuality. Our Lord never mentioned a person’s separate, isolated identity. He spoke of all people in terms of their ability to be merged: “… that they may be one as we are one.”

If you relinquish your right to yourself to God, the real, true nature of your personality will immediately answer to him. Jesus Christ sets the personality free, and individuality is transfigured. The transfiguring element is love—personal devotion to Jesus. Love is the outpouring of one personality in fellowship with another.

Wisdom from Oswald

The place for the comforter is not that of one who preaches, but of the comrade who says nothing, but prays to God about the matter. The biggest thing you can do for those who are suffering is not to talk platitudes, not to ask questions, but to get into contact with God, and the “greater works” will be done by prayer (see John 14:12–13).  Baffled to Fight Better, 56 R